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| God has written us on the palm of his hand. We are his love note. |
v See yourself the way God sees you: Unique, Chosen,
and Special
v Align your values with the Word of God and don’t
substitute His standards
v Don’t place God in a box. He knows you better than
you know yourself
v Pray, Fast, and Seek God before entering or
committing to any relationship
v Do not court the unsaved; you will begin your
relationship at odds
v Make sure the person you are courting is growing in
the Lord
v Make sure the person you are courting in submitted to
a local body and the leadership
v Ask a lot of questions and don’t be intimidated when
others ask you the hard questions
v Fellowship in a group instead of one-to-one settings
v Introduce them to your pastor; abide by your leaders
rules set in your house of worship
v Ask to be introduced formally to their leader if you
don’t share the same one
v Do not become engaged without Christian counsel
v Do not plan a wedding during courtship or engagement;
these are separate processes
v Do not mislead anyone about your intentions. Friends
should be treated as friends
v Do not place commitment before compatibility
v Do not get ahead of God; if He says wait, wait. If He
says no, believe He has better
v Avoid the marriage is the answer to everything
syndrome; it is ministry to a dying world
v Don’t create soul ties (opening yourself up
spiritually, physically, emotionally before God’s timing)
v Don’t ignore warning signs of potential problems
(abuse, addictions, possessiveness) they will only magnify later
v Know when to stop the bleeding; don’t remain in a relationship
because of obligation or guilt. Call it off if necessary and the person refuses
to get counseling
v Give yourself time between relationships (at least 6 months )
v Courtship should have a goal in mind. It is not
casual dating. You should be able to see yourself growing with the person and
making a lifelong commitment to them and potential family. This is not for the
person simply looking for “a good time”
v You are more than a good time. You are a person who
is worth the value and quality God invested in you. You are treasure, and the
wise person will search for and seek you out
v Allow others to hold you accountable in your
relationship, those who care more about your spiritual health than saying what
you want to hear
